Weekly Photo Challenge: Inside

This week, I decided to take on the WordPress weekly challenge and share photos of “something inside something”…

My chipmunk Hercule gets inside so many funny things that he instantly came to mind!

Inside a vase

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Inside a pot

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Inside a home-made nest

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Inside a glass

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Inside his house

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Inside the flat

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Inside a state of contemplation

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Inside glass walls

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Inside his own little world

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And finally…

Inside my melting heart

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We all live inside something, whether physically or figuratively!

A.

My beauty list!

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Yesterday was International Women’s Day, so let us be girly for a moment! I spent some time pampering myself and had a little ‘spa morning’ at home, which felt really nice!

I don’t wear a lot of make-up, I must say I’m quite lazy (and always late in the morning!), but I do wash and moisturise my face morning and night, I think that a good beauty routine is way more important that just wearing make-up. I also drink a lot of water and tea!

Without further ado, here are my favourite beauty products of the moment:

Gel Pureté, Chanel

Rinse-off Foaming Gel Cleanser Purity + Anti-pollution

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Crème Éclat du Jour, Clarins

Daily Energizer Cream

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HydraQuench Cream Mask, Clarins

Dehydrated Skin

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Tea Tree Blackhead Exfoliating Wash, The Body Shop

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Immortelle Essential Water, L’Occitane

Tonic Lotion with Floral Water

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Immortelle Milk Make-up Remover, L’Occitane

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Capture Totale, Dior

Multi-perfection Eye Treatment

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Beauté Initiale, Chanel

Energizing Multi-protection Fluid Healthy Glow

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Hydrating Lip Balm, Yves Rocher

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Body Scrub, The Body Shop

Spa Fit Smoothing & Refining Scrub

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Almond Milk Veil, L’Occitane

Firming and Beautifying Body Lotion

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Huile Prodigieuse, Nuxe

Multi-Usage Dry Oil

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Touche Éclat, Yves Saint Laurent

Radiant Touch Highlighting Pen

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Dandelion, Benefit

Brightening Face Powder

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Le Blush Crème de Chanel

Présage Shade

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They’re Real! Mascara, Benefit

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Lèvres Scintillantes Glossimer, Chanel

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Nail Polish, Chanel (for the amazing colours!)

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Happy shopping guys!

A.

My own little food tour of Europe…

“One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well.” Virginia Woolf, A Room of One’s Own

The Duck & Waffle, London (UK)

Let’s start with London since this is where I currently live! The Duck & Waffle is the highest restaurant in Europe. Located on the 40th floor of Heron Tower, right above Sushi Samba (next up on my list!), the 360° view is beautiful! The place is open 24/7 and has a bar area where you can look down on the Gherkin while sipping a cocktail.

The food is not cheap, but it is innovative and sophisticated. If you eat meat, you ought to try the “Duck & Waffle”. Don’t let the name put you off, the duck confit/egg/waffle/maple syrup is a mix that works very well!

http://duckandwaffle.com/

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Eggs & Co, Paris (France)

Here’s a place I like to visit every time I go to the City of Light! Located in Saint-Germain-des-Prés, this cute little restaurant is perfect for Sunday brunch. There is a cosy and rustic feel, and if you’re lucky, you might sit by the fake henhouse! Important detail: the food is to die for. The brunch menus all come with a fresh juice, a warm beverage and pancakes & fruits. My personal favourite (and many people will agree) is the Eggs Benedict, they are sooo good! I’ve been trying to reproduce them at home, with no luck… I am really looking forward to going back in May!

http://www.eggsandco.fr/

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Le Bistro du Fromager, Nice (France)

I know, France again… What can I say, French cuisine is the best! Our friends took us there a couple of years ago during a weekend in Nice, and we absolutely loved it. You are led down the stairs to a charming stone-walled and cave-liked little room where you will enjoy one of the cheese specialities. No need to know anything about wine, the host will recommend the best one to go with your food. The food is fresh and authentic, the service is excellent and the whole experience will be enchanting! I definitely want to go back at some point.

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El Mercado de San Miguel, Madrid (Spain)

This isn’t a cozy place where you can sit down and relax but if you want to try the best of Spanish food, this is the place! It is very busy so be prepared to stand while you eat and even share tables with strangers. This buzzing covered market has everything from tortilla, paella and croquettes to fresh fruits, sweets and pastries. We spent four days in Madrid and ended up going there (at least) three times!

http://www.mercadodesanmiguel.es/

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Ristorante Joseph, Rome (Italy)

I am lucky enough to have friends living in beautiful Rome. My boyfriend and I went to visit them for a week, and they took us to various typical places. Although I really enjoyed the late-night gelatos and tiramisu, this lovely Italian restaurant is one of my best food memories from Rome!  I ate buffalo mozzarella for the first time and savoured a true risotto: my favourite Italian dish. And it’s not just the food that is good, you will also be charmed by the setting.

http://www.ristorantejoseph.com/

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A choupana, Portimao (Portugal)

Having a Portuguese boyfriend, I get to travel to Portugal regularly, and I must say the food there is amazing, really tasty. Vegetables for instance, they just taste the way they should taste! You won’t find the best food in the touristic areas though, the best food I had was in those tiny, remote places in the middle of nowhere.  A choupana is located along a road, and if you’re not looking for the place, you won’t find it (we nearly didn’t find it, even though we were looking for it!). We initially went there to try their roast suckling pig (Leitao in Portuguese), but I found everything to be super delicious!

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All this made me hungry, I will leave you now and go enjoy my dinner. Bon appétit everyone!

A.

5 films I will never forget

“I demand that a film express either the joy of making cinema or the agony of making cinema. I am not at all interested in anything in between.” François Truffaut

The Chaser (original title: Chugyeogja), 2008 chaser1

Director: Hong-jin Na

In short: The Chaser is a stylish South Korean thriller about a policeman-turned-pimp who tries to capture the serial killer preying his girls.

Things happen. You meet people who change your life. You listen to music that inspires you. And you watch a film that will stay with you forever. And you don’t see it coming. It happened to me in 2009 when I watched The Chaser. I read the synopsis, thought “why not”, and only decided to watch it a few months later. To be honest, the pitch wasn’t so great, and I approached the film with a “been there, seen that” attitude. Big slap in the face, but a good one. Probably because I didn’t expect much from it. It is so gripping and captivating you’ll be on the edge of your seat until the very end. This film is extremely violent yet quiet. Graphic yet realistic.

Yes, it is shocking, it is disturbing, but it is cinema. An intense piece of cinema.

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Director: Sofia Coppola

In short: A group of young boys become obsessed with five mysterious sisters who are sheltered by their strict, religious parents.

The film is adapted from the 1993 novel by American writer Jeffrey Eugenides.

Sofia Coppola is one of my two favourite directors (the other one being mentioned a little later!). Everything she touches turns to gold. Her style is unique. She has only made a handful of films but each and every one of them is a gem. I was 13 when The Virgin Suicides was released and it made quite an impression! As a sensitive and tormented teenager, I could relate to these five sisters. Their melancholy really struck a chord. Just like this group of male friends, you, the spectator, will become obsessed with these mysterious and inaccessible creatures, especially Lux Lisbon (played by Kirsten Dunst), the playful one. And there is also the music. Sofia Coppola is a master in the art of putting image and music together (Highschool Lover and Playground Love by French duo Air are perfection). Sofia’s poetic depiction of this tragic story is deeply moving. Her film-making is truly beautiful and powerful. If you haven’t watched any of her films (or all of them!), I suggest you do so now!

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Director: Francis Ford Coppola

In short: is the pitch really necessary here??

No wonder Sofia Coppola is so amazing, look at who she has for a father! Of all the films he’s made, this one affected me particularly. I started watching horror films at a (very) young age, and that’s probably why this one affected me so much. I remember being terrified of Gary Oldman’s Dracula because of one nightmare I had. I was in my bed, helpless, and he was coming for me. Of course, I watched this film again several years later, and it struck me for different reasons. The poetry, the beauty of it. The beast can fall in love. The reincarnation theme also adds to the mystery of the story being told. All these elements, the scare, the blood, the love and the supernatural, make this film one of my all-time favourites.

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Director: Woody Allen

In short: While in Paris with his fiancée’s family, a nostalgic screenwriter finds himself mysteriously going back to the 1920s every night at midnight.

Oh Woody Allen, you really get me! While this piece is not the only one I love from Allen’s work, it definitely is the one that I can relate to the most. Owen Wilson plays a nostalgic character whose dream is to live in Paris in the 1920s. Nostalgia, i.e. a sentimental longing or wistful affection for a period in the past, is at the heart of this film. Nostalgia is a big part of me too. I’m not saying it’s good, but that’s the way it is, I can’t deny it. So when this character, Gil, finds himself surrounded by the most prestigious figures of the 1920s, I can’t help but be envious. I too want to meet the Fitzgeralds, Picasso, Wilde, Dali, Buñuel… But the lesson is that the past is not any better than the present, it is what we make of it in our mind that is so appealing. Just like the present day is insignificant to Gil, the 1920s are boring to the character played by Marion Cotillard, simply because “it’s the present, it’s dull”. So, instead of brooding about the fact that I didn’t get to live in the 30s or the 60s, I can now enjoy going back to these times through films and be thankful for the present.

Oh, and the film is funny too (obviously!). Check out my favourite scene.

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Director: Michael Powell, Emeric Pressburger

In short: A ballet dancer is torn between the man she loves and the pursuit of her dream to become a prima ballerina.

I’ve always liked ballet, but it’s only when I watched this film during my film studies in London a few years back that I realized I could watch it for hours. The Red Shoes is originally a fairy tale by Danish poet and author Hans Christian Andersen about a young girl whose red shoes take control over her: the shoes are stuck to her feet and she can’t take them off. Nor can she stop dancing. The moment she removes the shoes is the moment she dies. At the core of this surrealist piece of cinema is the ballet, the art itself, as a projection of the ballerina’s subconscious. Black Swan (Darren Aronofsky, 2010) reminded me of it for its mise en abîme and tragic ending. Both films really chime with how I feel about ballet. I must say that the dancing scenes are my favourite parts.

What about you? I want to know all about the films that changed YOUR life, don’t be shy, leave comments! And stay tuned for more cinema postings…

A.

“This is my religion”

religion3Whether or not we are believers, we can’t deny it: religion is all around us. It brings people together and drives them apart. Religion is not just about living your life a certain way or being a better person: it’s also a promise that everything is going to be ok. This world we live in, it’s not the end. This is such a huge statement to make, how can we be certain of such a thing?

Religion is embedded in our daily lives: our bank holidays, the food we eat (fish on Friday?), the veiled women we walk past every day, the “Oh My God” we hear and say on a regular basis.

We could say I was raised a Christian (I went to a catholic school, was baptised and took my communion), all that without never really knowing what it actually meant. This was all a bit blurry until I met Sarah. Sarah is a Christian and has taught me that Christianity wasn’t (just) about going to church every Sunday and “being a good person with good moral values”. She taught me it was about getting to know Jesus a little bit more every day.

My good friend Rachid has taught me that Islam wasn’t just about living by a set of rules, it was about living a happier life. That’s a simple fact, but that’s all too important.

And what I’ve learnt from my colleague Anand is that Hinduism is about doing the right thing no matter what and detaching yourself from all materialistic things.

I like to challenge things, and I ask a lot of questions. How can Jesus’ death can save us all? How come you say one thing and my Muslim friend says another? Why do people fight and kill each other in the name of God, who is nothing but caring and loving? Is there one or several Gods? Is there one at all?

Three of my friends accepted to answer my questions and tell us more about their religion. I’ve asked them the same four questions and asked them to provide a quotation. Enjoy.

Meet Sarah. 27 years old. Translator. From London, UK.Stained Glass Depicting Jesus Christ

Can you define your religion and tell us what it is about?

The heart of the Christian message is summed by this verse in the Bible: “God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8).

I’ll briefly explain what this means… The Bible says that everyone in the world has turned their backs on God. Instead of living under his loving leadership, we want to run our lives our own way, and God is angry with the way we treat him and other people. God is just and won’t sweep our sin/wrongdoings under the carpet as if they don’t matter, but at the same time he is loving and merciful. This leaves everyone with a dilemma: how can any of us approach a holy, pure God when we’re all sinners? Amazingly, God himself provides the solution. Jesus, God’s own son, died on the cross to take on himself God the Father’s anger at our sin. This swap means that God looks at guilty sinners as people who are completely forgiven and innocent! He also includes them in his family and offers them the gift of eternal life with him.

This offer is open to anyone in the world but to receive it we need to turn back to God and ask him for the forgiveness. The Bible also says that one day Jesus will return to judge everyone. Christians have nothing to fear when they meet Jesus because their sin and guilt is completely dealt with by him. But anyone who continues to reject Jesus and his offer of forgiveness will have to pay the punishment for their sin themselves.

What wrong beliefs do people have?

The main wrong view people have is Christianity is a religion based on merit, i.e. that God will be pleased with you if you do something for him. This could take various forms, e.g. attending church occasionally; attending church every week for your entire life; getting baptised, confirmed, married in a church; giving money to church and/or charity; being a good moral person; having a Christian background; not committing any major crimes; etc.

How did you come to believe in God and what impact has it had on your life?

I became a Christian in my mid-teens having gone to church with my parents ever since I was born. I must have heard who Jesus was and why he died many, many times, but it didn’t affect how I lived in a huge way. When I was about 14, something clicked and I began to understand the significance of Jesus’ claims to be God and why his death was so important. If Jesus really was God, then he had authority over me! And if Jesus did take the punishment for my sins, I wanted to turn back to him and have my sins forgiven! I can remember the night I turned back to Jesus: I asked him for forgiveness and thanked him for dying on the cross for me, and said that I wanted to live under his authority.

Being a Christian has impacted my life in various ways, which all stem from understanding the change that took place in my life when I became a Christian: instead of being separated from God and under his anger, I am now one of his dearly loved children and can approach him at any time as father! I’m really grateful for all he did to make this possible. I go to church, read the Bible and pray because I want to get to know him better, and I want to bring all my behaviour, priorities and decisions under his leadership because I know that his ways are best, even if it’s hard at times.

What do you think your life would be like if religion wasn’t part of it?

I would probably worry a lot more than I do at the moment, e.g. about achievements, success, my appearance, the future. However, I know that to God I am incredibly valuable because he went to such great lengths to bring me back to him, so I don’t need to prove my worth through these other areas. I also don’t need to worry about the future (e.g. jobs, accommodation) because God has promised to provide his children with everything they need. I don’t even need to worry about death because I can know for certain that I will not face God’s judgement because Jesus has taken the punishment for me. Instead, I can look forward to eternal life with him beyond death in a perfect new creation.

And because Jesus will bring in a perfect new creation, I don’t have to be consumed by FOMO now! I can enjoy the things I love like travelling, good food, time with friends, etc. but because I know all these things will be even better in the new creation, I don’t have to cram everything in now!

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“Anyone who thinks sitting in church can make you a Christian must also think that sitting in a garage can make you a car.” Garrison Keillor

Meet Rachid. 28 years old. Actuary. From Le Mans, Francecoran.

Can you define your religion and tell us what it is about?

There are many ways to introduce Islam, but all of them agree to say that it is a religion of peace. Incidentally, in Arabic, the word “Islam” stands for submission (to God) but it is part of the same ‘word family’ as “Salam”, which means “Peace”.

With regards to the practice, being a Muslim begins with the reading of the Shahadah (Testimony), to accept the truth of Islam. Then we have to pray five times a day, must fast from sunrise to sunset during the holy month of Ramadan, give Zakat (regular charity) to the poor, and finally, the Hajj: Muslims must make a pilgrimage to the Holy City of Mecca (at least) once in their lifetime.

What wrong beliefs do people have?

To me, the three most common wrong beliefs that people have are:

“Women wear a hijab (Islamic scarf) because they are submitted to their husband.” Wrong. When a woman decides to wear it, it’s her own decision, and it’s a sign of submission to God, like eating halal, not drinking alcohol…

“Muslims don’t eat pork because it’s dirty and a source of disease.” Wrong. The reason we don’t eat pork is because it’s an order from God, and we have to obey Him, period. It’s an impure meat, as well as non-halal meat or the meat of a dead animal.

“Muslims are Arabs, and Arabs are Muslims.” Wrong. Only 20% of the 1.5 billion Muslims on earth are Arabs, and many Arabs are Christians, Jewish and even atheists.

Funny anecdote: one day, while I was cooking, a friend of mine seriously asked me: “Do you guys, when you cook, have to orientate the saucepan towards Mecca?” I couldn’t stop laughing.

How did you come to believe in God and what impact has it had on your life?

As my parents are Muslims, I was born and raised a Muslim. I have always believed in Allah. He is with me. Everywhere, all the time. I adore Him, and I fear Him. He helps me cope with my challenges, a lot. I can tell Him about my problems, my concerns, my joys and, unlike people, he doesn’t get bored. It’s quite the contrary. He helps me take everything with philosophy. There is good in the “bad things” that happen to me, to us.

What do you think your life would be like if religion wasn’t part of it?

If Islam wasn’t part of my life, I would probably still have wondered about our existence on earth. As a good mathematician, I would have been confronted with the reality of figures and probability for sure, which would have led me to question the accidental nature of the creation of the universe, the earth, the living. Just like Einstein who believed in God without believing in any religion.

On a concrete level, if I weren’t a Muslim, I would drink, I would most probably smoke, I would have done more stupid things that I actually did… because in a lot of situations, Islam was preventing me from doing all of those things, it was reasoning me. I wouldn’t have all those fundamental principles, I would lose focus. I know for a fact that I wouldn’t be married to my wonderful wife, because a Muslim woman cannot get married to a non-Muslim man. Like the yin missing the yang, my life would be incomplete.

Rachid’s quote:

“In a World where people are surrounded by darkness, ignorance and fear, it is a sign of hope to be celebrating Islam’s message of peace and light, and the last great Messenger, born and chosen to deliver them to all mankind.” Cat Stevens

Meet Anand. 27 years old. Project Manager. From London, UK.aaaaaaaa-hindu_god_lord_vishnu_painting

Can you define your religion and tell us what it is about?

What is Hinduism? Tough to answer in just a few words.

To me and a billion others, it is more of a way of life than a religion. A bringing together of cultural, philosophical and spiritual customaries that breathe a foundation of righteousness in our short material lives, that eventually will lead to liberation from the cycle of birth and death.

Righteousness, or “dharma” as we call it, is instilled into our lives from a tender age by our elders, teaching us to carry out our duties whilst respecting nature and its complex laws.

“Karma”, which is a law of action and reaction, is what keeps us in check, and regulates us to ensure we reap as we sow.

What wrong beliefs do people have?

The main misunderstanding people outside of Hinduism have is that we have thousands of gods.

We do not.

I’m not entirely sure how to explain this clearly, but I’ll give it my best shot. To break it down simply, we have one supreme godhead known as Vishnu, who uses an “avatar” or reincarnates to descend onto earth each time there is a dilemma which needs resolving, to bring back stability and balance the books so to speak.
The concept of reincarnation is explained better on this site:

http://www.hinduwebsite.com/hinduism/concepts/avatar.asp

The second main misconception is that we are a bunch of cow worshippers. Really?

This is actually laughable. Yes, it’s true that we respect nature and all forms of life, but the idea that we see cows as deities is totally misinterpreted. More information and probably a better explanation can be found here:

http://hinduism.about.com/od/basics/a/hinduism.htm

How did you come to believe in God and what impact has it had on your life?

To a certain extent, I have always believed in the idea or at least the thought that there is someone up there who watches down on us.

I would say that I was fairly agnostic up until the last few years.

I view life as a continuous lesson, right up until we “kick the bucket” and I would say that due to a few significant circumstances so far in life, my beliefs have broadened and I’m also continuously learning new things, not only about religion, but also plenty of other things that are slowly being introduced into my journey.

What my belief does for me is keep me on the straight and narrow. It allows me to make the correct decisions and be satisfied with the outcome.

What do you think your life would be like if religion wasn’t part of it?

“Ifs and buts” as they say. No one can truly know how my life would have turned out to be like without “Sanātana Dharma” (or Hinduism to everyone else).

I’m not saying that everything has worked out perfectly with Hinduism being a part of my life, but I have a very good inkling that I would be totally lost without it. I will leave it at that, as I dislike making assumptions and I may be very wrong. Never assume as they say.

I hope you enjoyed seeing things from my vantage point (if you would like to call it that) and I hope it’s given you a slight insight on what Hinduism is about.

Anand’s quote:

“Keep your ego to one side, and treat every day as another lesson in life.” This is actually from Anand.

Back to me now…

Let me just say one thing: I haven’t picked these three religions because I think they are the only ones worth writing about, but because I had these three people close to me who were willing to share their beliefs. So please don’t feel left out in any way if your religion is not mentioned!

If you want to know more about Judaism, check out this website:

http://judaism.about.com/od/judaismbasics/a/All-About-Judaism-10-Common-Questions.htm

The point of this article was not to answer any existential questions, I just think it’s important to consider other people’s views and be aware of what’s out there! This is also about fighting prejudice and realising that some of our preconceived ideas are wrong. Yes, some people turn religion into a bad thing but let’s not forget what it is truly about.

I will finish on this note: I may not share their beliefs, but let me tell you one thing: all three of these people have the following in common: they are kind, loving, understanding and certainly fun to be around!

A.

What’s in a bag?

I’ve currently got my eyes on the most amazing handbag (ok maybe not the most amazing, but pretty amazing!), and it got me thinking: why is it that handbags are so important to women? Most men don’t care about putting their belongings in their pockets or in OUR handbags, but we have to have a real (gorgeous) one to carry all the things we need (and more)… Why is it that we feel “naked” without it? We often say that a handbag is the extension of a woman’s arm, so where does that woman-bag relationship come from?

Ok, so I did a little research on how it all started, and guess what? The earliest handbags in history were small sacks carried by gentlemen! You heard me: it all started with men! They date way back to ancient history and were used to carry spices, flint and money. While the term “handbag” didn’t exist until the mid-nineteenth century, “pouches” were used by men to carry their valuables. We can even see men wearing purses on Egyptian hieroglyphs. Throughout the centuries, these purses took various forms: women would attach them to their girdles, wear them under their skirts, peasants and travellers would wear large bags across their body, and some even used them to carry sweet smelling material (hygiene was sometimes underrated…). The term “handbag” was coined in the 19th century when railways developed and a need for travel bags emerged. Many famous brands started by creating luggage (Hermès, Louis Vuitton…) and it soon became a sophisticated accessory! After the Second World War, the purse became a cult accessory and a sign of femininity. Designers would play with colours, sizes and shapes, which would allow women to create their own style and convey different messages.

There is something sexual about a handbag and wearing one conveys a message. According to Freud, the contents of a bag symbolise the unconscious and can even be interpreted as female genitalia or a womb. It is said that what’s in a bag reflects the owner’s personality, hence the paradox: a bag is used to conceal and to signify. Do the contents of a bag really reflect our personality? I like to carry more than I actually need (you know, just in case), what does that say about me? So, I’ve completed a little online test and it turns out I’m a very emotional person (true), and my handbag is a treasure chest that reflects my dreamer and sentimental side (also true), wow this test is good! Maybe next time, I could analyse the contents of my closet? On second thought, I don’t think that’s a good idea, it would take me ages…

Now let’s get down to business: my favourite picks for this season, from designer brands to high street!

 

marc-by-marc-jacobs-too-hot-to-handle-satchelToo Hot to Handle Satchel, Marc by Marc Jacobs (my absolute favourite!)

narciso rodriguez clutchStone and Black Mini Boomerang Clutch, Narciso Rodriguez

flap_nbsp_bag-sheet.png.fashionImg.hiFabric Flap Bag with interlaced chain and pearls, Chanel

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WAAT2001F_lie_1Bag Sunny City, Zadig & Voltaire

zadig-navy-clutch-rock-broderie-product-1-14449131-632030596_large_flexClutch Rock Broderie, Zadig & Voltaire

messenger bag zaraCombined leather messenger bag, Zara

red satchel new lookCoral Structured Metal Plate Satchel, New Look

tote warehouseContrast zip tote, Warehouse

Happy shopping!

A.

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To reverse, or not to reverse?

stack_of_booksDid you know that the French language has a very strange slang called “verlan”? Being French and having been raised in France, it never occurred to me that it could be something specific to my language and very odd to other people. I realized that when I told my former British housemate about it. His reaction? “You reverse words? Like in “table/ble-ta”? That is stupid!” And yes it is, when you think about it. So for those of you who never heard of this French invention, “verlan” (which is “l’envers” (“reverse”) reversed and adapted) is a slang that plays around the syllables. It is similar to pig Latin but many terms are actually spoken in France!

So, to form the verlan of a word, simply divide it into syllables, reverse them, change the spelling so that it’s easier to pronounce and you’ve got it! Example with the French word for “shame”: “honte – hon-te – te-hon – tehon”. Some terms are so common that sometimes we don’t even realize they were verlaned: ripou (pourri=corrupted cop, which is in the dictionary!) or meuf (femme=woman). This technique developed during the Second World War as an encrypted language and was most active in the 90s but we can still find terms in our everyday communications: I, myself, use a lot of “relou” (which means annoying, verlan of “lourd”=heavy) and “chelou” (verlan of “louche” which means dodgy).

What’s the point, you might say?

Well, reversing the word is not just about creating a coded language, it also alters and/or emphasizes its true meaning. So, before today, I had never thought about how strange it could be for foreigners, but now that I think about it, I can’t help but wonder: are the French the only ones doing this? I’ve checked with my European coworkers: Spain: no, England: nope, Portugal: still no. And I’m not the only one wondering if this is a French thing: other people posted the question on the web and it turns out that this type of slang is also used in Japan, Argentina (as well as Peru and Venezuela apparently) and in Wolof-speaking countries (as far as I know!). Well, I don’t speak much Japanese, let’s not talk about Wolof… But I happen to speak Spanish and I was very intrigued! Naturally, I googled “palabras al revés en Argentina” (words in reverse in Argentina) and I found “hablar el vesre” on a forum, how funny is that! A few examples: “feca” for “café” (dropping the accent), “jermu” for “mujer”, “novi” for “vino”… That’s quite simple, the thing is to know exactly what words they actually reverse! I’m not planning on going to Argentina in the near future, that will leave me time to do some more research and become a pro at “vesre”: “un feca por vorfa”?, not quite yet… I also discovered that some people from there or who have been there have no idea that kind of slang exists in other countries, what a shame.

So, to answer my question: no, France is not the only country doing that, and here I was thinking that my home country was special… Well, it may not be the only country speaking verlan but it certainly is the one where it first developed. I’m not talking about the 90s, no… Did you know it actually started in the Middle-Age? Ok, it wasn’t really verlan, but people used metatheses (putting the words in a different order). It expanded during the 20th century in literature but was only used orally much later. It was conveyed through music and cinema: I’m thinking rap music or even Renaud (famous French musician) with the famous “Laisse béton”, Claude Zidi (French director) and the “Ripoux” as well as Jacques Dutronc (another French musician) who wrote an entire song in verlan! From the 70s on, it became active and was most spoken in the (underprivileged) suburbs: verlan was the signature of the people living there. I could go on and on about this amazing invention but there is just so much to say about it. And what about the future? It’s only 2014, who knows what kind of twisted language game people will coin in the years to come… As T.S. Eliot cleverly said: “For last year’s words belong to last year’s language, and next year’s words await another voice”. I’ll let you think about it…

For those interested in the Spanish slang, check out the article below:

http://www.speakinglatino.com/argentine-slang-in-reverse-vesre/

Here’s French slang explained in music:

And here is the Jacques Dutronc song:

Enjoy mis amigos!

A.

A fearless life

Santosha-Yoga-Surfing-Retreats-300608-004-1024x681If you’re like me, and suffer from anxiety, you know that it’s not easy every day. Fear is all around us. You might feel ashamed or guilty for having this “ridiculous” problem, but if you start talking about it around you, not only will you realize that everyone has issues (yes, more people that you think), and that there’s a lot of people like you, but you will also find it very liberating.

Over the course of my 27 years on earth, I’ve met people who are scared of driving, being in the dark, flying, spiders, being sick, having a heart attack, scared of being scared (that’s a good one!). We need to stop torturing ourselves. Did you know that you’re not actually scared of what you think you’re scared of? What you fear is your reaction to it! Even though it is not our fault that we have anxiety in the first place, it isn’t something that happens to us: we create it. Only we have the power to rid ourselves of whatever fear or thought that limits us.

You’ll find below some very helpful and interesting tips that I learnt along the way, which will help you get over your anxiety and, ultimately, live your life to the fullest:

–          Think positive: whatever negative thought you have in your mind: find the positive in it. After all, we all live in the same world, so how come some people see the good when we see the bad? As Albert Einstein wisely said, the most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.

–          Try not to control everything: people who want to control everything end up being very frustrated because, well, some things in life are just outside of our control! So learn to let go and you’ll realize that nothing catastrophic happens.

–          Learn to forgive: you are hurting yourself by holding grudges. Don’t be enemy-centred, instead try to figure out how you can be a better person. (I’ve finally stopped resenting my boyfriend for checking that girl out nine years ago!)

–          Do whatever makes you feel happy, express your creativity and relax every day: by seeing your friends and family, writing a blog, watching Downton Abbey, training for the rock paper scissors world championship (yes, it is a real thing)…

–          Learn to love yourself: praise yourself for every positive thing you do, and be confident that you can achieve anything if you put your mind to it. You can even keep a journal of your positive experiences on a daily basis, this will help you realize that you experience more positive things than you think, and will help build your self-confidence.

–         VISUALIZE success: if you visualize the positive or desired outcome, it is much more likely to happen, first because rehearsing situations in your mind allows you to be prepared, and then because if you think positive, you generate the positive! Let’s take an example: if you fear/think you’re going to fail an exam and you build a lot of pressure around it, then your anxiety will prevent you from concentrating, leading you to fail indeed! Understand that things come from inside of you, not from outside (with the exception of the national lottery maybe): success will not come to you out of nowhere. You have the skills and power to change your life.

–         Do some regular exercise and (I might sound like your mom) eat some vegetables!

–         Final tip: if, in spite of your efforts, you find yourself panicking (you know, that “oh no” moment), do not fight it! Do not try to stop or control it, it will only make it worse. Just accept it and try not to pay too much attention to the physical symptoms, learn to accept the uncomfortable, it’s no big deal! You need to embrace your emotions, and turn them into positive ones.

Easy to say but not so easy to implement you might say. Getting over anxiety is a constant effort, you need to be patient, and it will eventually pay off. I know, it’s not fair, some people just seem to never be affected by what happens around them. But take your problem as an opportunity to get to know yourself better and to come out of it stronger. Stronger and wiser than anyone who will never have to go through this.

Actress Teresa Palmer regularly posts videos on how to live a happy life, they are called Tez Talks. I found this one particularly relevant:

If you want to rid yourself of a smoking habit, phobia or social problem, have a look at the Thrive program (from which the tips above are largely inspired), an amazing program created by Rob Kelly:

http://www.thriveprogramme.org/

If you don’t suffer from any specific issue but just want to be as successful as you can be, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey is what you need. Don’t be put off by the title, this is actually a powerful lesson in personal change!

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Remember that change comes from inside!

A.

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Welcome to my journal!

My name is Aurélie, Auré, or Lili for the English natives who have a hard time pronouncing it! I live in East London and share my life with my longtime partner, Marco, video game player and chipmunk lover.

This is a place for sharing discoveries, happy moments and all the beauty that the world has to offer, whether it be an extraordinary person or film, a poem, a book, a conversation, a place… So I will share with you anything I come across that I find interesting, beautiful, and even life-changing.

I hope you’ll enjoy reading this blog as much as I enjoy writing it.

A.

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